Flowers from the King
Have you ever wondered why we give flowers, for loss and birth and love? Honestly, I’ve never thought about it. Well, there’s actually a science behind it.
The night before my wedding I was up all night sick with nerves. The next morning I went to the church. I needed to keep busy to distract myself so I started vacuuming the church. I was still a ball of nerves until the flowers showed up. As soon as they arrived and the room filled with the color and smells of all those gorgeous blooms, all of my nerves disappeared. I was filled with joy, I could eat and relax and look forward to the day.
I was reminded of this just before Valentine’s day this year. This was my first Valentine’s day as a flower shop owner. Leading up to the big day I was so nervous. For several nights in a row, I couldn’t sleep. My mind was filled with all the what ifs. What if I didn’t order enough flowers, what if I don’t get over this sickness that is plaguing my family, what if my flowers die? Then the day came to go pickup all of the flowers and at the sight of them all of the nerves melted away.
This weekend I attended a women’s business summit and my newly made friend, Misty, was speaking. Misty has an amazing testimony about how flowers were the life line that helped her get up and live after the death of her son. She now has a huge garden of Dahlias that have given her this new business adventure and catapulted her into the community where she uses her grief and healing and love for life and people to encourage and build up others, including me.
Misty has also done a lot of research on the power of flowers to make us feel better. She wrote a book about it appropriately called, Flower Power. There’s actually science and research behind this. Flowers cause our body to release oxytocin, the chemical that makes us feel good. There is a lot more to it than that, but it explains a lot.
In her talk she mentioned something about the divinity in flowers. I have thought about how God has given us beautiful things. Things weren’t created just for their practical use, but to be beautiful. Food doesn’t just sustain us, but it tastes good and looks beautiful. Flowers don’t just provide pollen for the bees to do their life giving work, but He made them beautiful and amazing in color and smell and design, and He made this chemical in our bodies to respond to this beauty to make us happy and feel better.
I went to a women’s event at Cornerstone church this weekend as well. When I sat down the conversation across from me was this woman talking about the flowers her husband gave her for Valentine’s day. She was beaming. It turns out he bought the flowers from me. She proceeded to show me all the pictures she took of her flowers and how the ribbon wrapped around them fell just perfectly and the flowers were so beautiful. This makes my heart soar, this beauty and joy.
Both of these events had a lot of similar themes, we are women after all, themes of fear and mom guilt but also of women loving and caring for each other, encouraging and building one another up. I am so blessed to be a part of this. In a world that sometimes seems too overwhelming with bad news, evil and sadness, my hope is renewed because there is, in reality, a lot of beauty still in the world.
In the broad sense, we have been given a world full of flowers from our King, our creator. In the smaller sense, I have been given flowers from my King. He has filled me with joy and lets me pass that joy to others, through flowers and through caring for and building up the other women in my life and they in turn do the same for me. My takeaway from the weekend and from a Youtube Video of Will Smith: surround yourself with people who fan your flame, people who encourage and build you up. And be one of those people for others. What’s paramount for me is that God has given me giftings and promptings and guides me. He promises me in Psalm 1 that if i do not take counsel from the wicked and I delight in His law and meditate on it day and night, I will be like a tree planted by streams of water thats leaves will not wither and all I do will prosper. :)